26 May


  • What is “verbal intimacy?”  It is conversation where each person feels accepted no matter what he or she says, reveals, explains, or feels.  Complete openness to another human; absolute honesty that strips one of all pretension, posturing, and protection so that he can present himself naked and vulnerable to the other.  (By Jim Beam, LovePath International)  He learned in the 1970’s, in a graduate level psychology class,that the most common thing men want from prostitutes is a listening ear.  His searching has found that phone sex callers crave someone to listen without judgment.  Thousands upon thousands of men pay women to listen to them!

Let’s take a look at this Proverbs woman again as a “profile peeker.”  She must have known about “verbal intimacy.”

Prov.31:29  “Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excelled them all.”

The other verses were talking about her, not to her.   Apparently it is her husband who is speaking these words.

This is the husband’s praise in his own words.

The word “virtuously” in Hebrew is Chayil.  It is a force, valor, strength, might and power.

What makes this so special is that this husband had to know that his wife was not the ONLY godly woman around.

In spite of him knowing there are other godly women around, he praises his own wife by telling her that she excels them all.

That sends CHILLS up my back!

He is telling her that she has raised herself above them all and the rest are incomparable.

Stay with me girls as we DISSECT this.

When your husband picked his wife, he married the best.


He married the best!!

To your husband, when he married you, he was convinced that he was marrying a woman that surpassed all others.

You were far ABOVE better than all the other girls he had met.

Your husband found a priceless gem and you were to him a treasure chest.

He married you because you were the best woman in the WHOLE WIDE WORLD.

In his mind, you excelled all other woman.

Has that changed??

Have you changed??

Not to worry!!  You are still the one who excels them all.

You need to STOP right now.  Take two deep breaths.

This part is only for “Women of Valor.”

Ask the Holy Spirit to show you what areas you have changed in, that you should not have.

Where or what does your attention go to?

Where or what does your finances go to?

Where or what does your free time go to?

Who or what do you appear to be enjoying?

Ask the Holy Spirit to show you what AREAS you do need to change in.

PARTNER with the Holy Spirit.

Are you still his brightest crown?

Are you still his best friendly friend?

Are you his COMFORTER in times of distress or do you tell him what a mess up he is?

Remember you are his girlfriend and cheerleader.

Do you use “verbal Intimacy” to make your husband feel accepted?

You can do it!  You did it once before.

You go girl!

That is what he came home for.

He’s in the right house with the right wife.


NOTE:  Don’t miss tomorrows post.  Daily there is a new post.

5 Responses to “VERBAL INTIMACY”

  1. nancysalazar May 26, 2011 at 7:49 pm #

    Hi Christina! Isn’t that the coolest! We think we are failures and flawed. But when our husbands fell in love with us, they were overwhelmed and saw the best in us. Hallelujah!!

  2. Virginia A. Valdez July 13, 2015 at 11:04 am #

    Hello sister Nancy, my name is Virginia A. Valdez who is married to Ruben R. Valdez the most loving & respectful man I have ever met… Our marriage ended today. Regardless of how it ended I need to find way to get my marriage back…..I believe deep down in my heart that this is not my husband and that the devil is working very hard on my husband…. I need to omit to God that I am a sinner but deeply need
    Him to come in to my heart and help me I need to get into a christian home and need help on selecting prays to read for my husband and help my marriage as well as keeping my head straight and my heart pure of love and not to let hate and the devil get in and fill them with lies….I thank you in advance for your help…. Virginia. My message phone # 626-409-4598

  3. Anne lutara September 11, 2016 at 10:41 am #

    Very helpful words,Amen

    • nancysalazar September 11, 2016 at 4:30 pm #

      Hi Anne! Thanks so much for your comment and kind words of encouragement!

  4. Angela October 1, 2016 at 4:39 pm #

    Where is the equality in this blog. At which point will the blogger recognise verbal intimacy is two way communication and acceptance on both participants in the relationship. I found this post looking for credibly information on verbal intimacy, this blog is far from anything credible.

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