2 Apr

Question #1. When a husband and a wife are constantly talking about each others failures in their marriage, openly in front of others, especially their children, how does this affect the child’s view of marriage?

Answer #1. Will bring insecurity to that child’s life.  The children will live with the fear that their parents will divorce.  There was a couple that fought all the time.  One of the children would tell people that they never wanted to get married and have children because they saw how miserable their parents were.  The child that made that comment, ended up a homosexual.  Children have to feel secure in a loving home to develop and become successful.  Without a loving atmosphere, children take problems into their own marriage when they grow up. Talking about your problems only glorifies the devil.  Arguing couples quench the Holy Spirit.  If you have an argumentative spouse, step into your restroom and start praying.

Question #2. How can you repair respect for your husband once you have “broken” it or crossed “the line?”

Answer #2. It will take time and you need to have patience.  The Holy Spirit wants to partner with you to repair this.

1st, tell him you are sorry.  Be specific about what you are sorry for.

2nd, tell him you will never do that again.  Let him know that you not only hurt him, but you hurt yourself.  You are one in Gods eyes.

3rd, do random acts of kindness.  They say for every bad thing you do, it takes 20 good things in order for the person you hurt to let it go.

4th, do what I call “open up an account for them in heaven.”   This is asking God to give you opportunities to do nice things for them.  Don’t let them know.  It is not even necessary that you let them know you did the nice things.  Just do them!  If they find out that you did something nice with out tooting your horn, it makes it more pleasurable for them.  God knows that you are caring for the spouse he has given you.

5th, buy him a gift.  Not expensive.  Just a treat or two at the right time.

6th, you might even ask him what you can do to make it up to him.  Humility always works for God.

7th, “lots of luvin”

NOTE:  Don’t miss tomorrows post.

5 Responses to “SATURDAY – QUESTION & ANSWER 4/2/11”

  1. vanessaperez01 April 2, 2011 at 5:29 am #

    Hi Sister Nancy,Thankyou for this Post.I have two little sisters 15 & 8.My Mom & Step dad are not saved & they constanly fight,argue,use bad words,put eachother down,on a daily basis.I noticed my sisters are always “angry” & my 8 yr old sister is kind of “boyish” she dresses like a boy & even plays with boy toys.Should I be worried? Homosexuality does run through my moms side of the family.I Pray & Pray against all this & for my Mom & Stepdads marriage & that God will deliver him also from his alcohol additions & for my sisters to grow up happy,To them its no big deal.Any other advice? Thanks hope to see you @ The Marriage Makeover 🙂 Love Vanessa

    • nancysalazar April 2, 2011 at 4:17 pm #

      Vanessa thanks for your comment. It is such a sad story. The truth is that this story of your family is just all to common. It happens over and over again. We can either be a good influence or a bad influence for our kids. Pray for each sibling everyday. Ask other prayer warriors at church to help you pray. That is why God picked you in your family to carry this burden in prayer. The book on “How to prepare your children for divorce” by Archibald Hart is excellent. It shows what children go through. Also, look at my past blogs and comments on Saturday and Sundays. I give more help to stepparents. Remember that God loves them also and he wants to intervene but it is up to them to respond to His promptings. There are thousands of women who will read this. They are praying for your family also. Your part is to love them when you are with them. That will make them want to be around you. At that point, you can tell them you will be at church and they are welcomed to come.

  2. vanessaperez01 April 2, 2011 at 5:01 pm #

    Yessss thankyou Sister Nancy for the encouragement.I always invite my family to Service.I am thankful to God & New Harvest because when Pastor Lee did that Service for children last year,George & I brought my sisters & it was then that their “Seed” was planted.

  3. Gabby April 5, 2011 at 9:35 am #

    Sister Nancy thank you for this post. It is a great reminder. God Bless You.

    Sister Vanessa I will keep your family in prayer.

    For encouragement I want to share that I’ve been saved for three years and I thank GOD everyday for the salvation of My Mother this year, my Aunt (my mom’s sister), Uncle (my aunts husband, and my little cousin who is 12yrs old who got saved about a year ago. They are now baptized and we continue to pray for the rest of our family to join us. GOD will reward your faithfulness.

    • nancysalazar April 5, 2011 at 2:14 pm #

      Thanks Gabby! Your comment will be an encouragement especially to women who have lost respect for their husband. I’m thrilled by how God has blessed you. He is a rewarder to them who diligently seek him. You are more than a conqueror.

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