YOUR HUSBANDS TOP THREE NEEDS:
RESPECT
In Dr. Kevin Leman’s book, he asked wives what they thought was the number one need in a mans life and got an array of interesting answers.
They were answers like food, remote control and sex.
Fortunately the top three needs have everything to do with his wife
This gives the wife the opportunity every day to meet these needs, but DO WE?
The first: RESPECT
In Eph.5:33, it is the marriage treatise and one of the best scriptures on marriage.
Eph.5:33 “…let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
In the Greek, the word is pronounced fob-eh’-o. It means to be in awe, reverence or to fear.
The important thing about this verse is that the wife and husband have to do it UNCONDITIONALLY.
No matter what the other partner does, they have to commit themselves to God by doing their part.
It can only work if it is unconditional.
This is long-term so we need to realize it is a marriage marathon.
When your husband isn’t respected, he will never by convinced that you love him.
He feels unloved !!
If he feels disrespected, he will go to other avenues to find respect.
He may become very quiet, may be bury himself in his work, or find reasons to not come home.
There will no longer be any reason to build a relationship.
IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT??
I DON’T THINK SO!
Here are some suggestions:
1. SMILE at him.
2. SAY HELLO when he comes home.
3. Don’t start COMPLAINING about things.
4. Let him sit on his favorite chair and go into his NOTHING BOX.
5. Don’t give him a LOOK when he has said or done something wrong.
6. Don’t DISRESPECT his family. He loves them.
7. Don’t YELL at him.
8. Let him SPEND money. He’s not in kindergarten and he worked for it.
9. Don’t BELITTLE him for the things he enjoys.
10. Don’t criticize him.
11. Did I leave anything out?
R E S P E C T H I M !! God gave you to him for support.
NOTE: Don’t miss tomorrow! You will find out what your husbands second need is.
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
I never saw that a man’s top 3 needs can be met by his wife. I never quite thought of it that way. I was at CVS the other day and saw a woman scolding her husband for bringing home the wrong medication for their sick child. She kept looking around at the people in the store to receive understanding or confirmation from us. All she got were looks of pity and those were for her poor husband. It didn’t say anything about him but it spoke volumes about her. I thought, “If she treats him like this in public I’d hate to see how she treats him in private.” But it made me go home and be just a little bit nicer to my husband and let him know that I do respect him…even when he brings home the wrong ANYTHING.
Hi L. Lopez! Thanks for your great comment! I always love hearing what you have to say. It touches my heart in a special way.