STAY OUT OF HUSBANDS BACKPACK
Everyone has heard of the statement “The more, the merrier!”
When I was a little girl, there was a comic strip called “Dagwood and Blondie.” Everyone read the comics every Sunday. Dagwood always ate stacked sandwiches. So a big sandwich was called a “Dagwood Sandwich.”
When it comes to an ice cream cone or a sandwich, a “triple decker” is cool.
When it comes to Christianity, a “triple decker” could mean something else.
Let’s see what Jesus was teaching His disciples on this subject.
Matt.18:21-22 “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”
Jesus was giving them a teaching on forgiveness.
This was not an easy thing for the disciples as it was not for us when we realized we had to forgive people we didn’t want to forgive.
Right now I want to look at “compounding sin.”
FIRST lets’ talk to women who are on their second marriage.
How often has your husband done or said something that has infuriated you because that was what your first husband did and you hate it.
You told yourself that you would never take that again off any man. You married your second husband because he was different. You were sure he would never act like that and if he did. There is the door.
Sucker once but not twice!
So you DEVOUR him. How dare him! You sucker punch him!
You contemplate LEAVING him or having him leave.
You are hurt.
You are COMPOUNDING someone elses sin and putting it in your husbands’ back pack!!
Your poor husband is “sucker punched” because he has no idea what got you so mad. He has no idea what he has done. He loves you but now he thinks he is married to a nut!!
Get it OUT of his backpack! It is not his and don’t let him carry it.
Bury it in the deepest part of the ocean.
SECOND, you may have grown up in a home where your dad was very abusive to your mom. Physically or mentally.
You decided that you are not ever going to be like your mom. A small part of you is a man hater but you will never admit that.
Not all men. Just the ones that act like “dear ol’ dad.”
All of a sudden, your husband says something or does something that triggers off a thought. He is just like dad!
He better not think I am like my mother and will put up with his garbage.
No!! Not me!!
I’ll show this dude right now who I am and who he isn’t.
When I am done, he will never do or say that again!
No!! Not to me!!
You hit him with everything you have. You make sure he is down and will stay there for quite a while. How dare him!
Poor guy! He is not your dad! Get a grip!
You have just been “sucker punched” by a lying devil.
This is exactly why Jesus said to forgive “seven times seventy.”
Jesus knows every trick of the devil and he wants you to live in peace.
That is how much he loves you.
You are COMPOUNDING someone elses sin and putting it in your husband’s backpack.
Don’t make him carry that UGLY thing around! He didn’t do anything wrong.
Maybe you are mad at someone at work or at home. Maybe you are mad at a friend or relative. Why are you COMPOUNDING that on his back.
Well, he does that to me!?! Forgive “Seven times seventy.”
Your forgiveness of others is the condition for God to forgive you. Mark 11:26 “”But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.”
CASE AND POINT: As a new Christian, I was very upset with my child who kept doing what I asked them not to. Every time they did it again, my anger would rise higher than the time before. It finally got to a point where they no longer were being disciplined for their action. They were being disciplined for all the other times they had done that same thing. God convicted me about COMPOUNDING. I knew I had to let it go and just deal with the one incident.
FREE your husband from “triple decker” COMPOUNDING! You will free yourself.
NOTE: Daily there is a new post to help your marriage succeed.
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
This is a problem today in marriages. We bring our “insignificant pasts” into our present relationships not realizing the catastrophic damage that could result. God wants our marriages to be blessed but how can HE bless when we hold on to our past wounds instead of surrendering our hurts to Him so that HE can completely heal our pain once and for all!
Hi Sonya! The evil one will bring up our past for the rest of our lives. It is his job to still, kill and destroy. As those thoughts appear, it gives us the opportunity to tell God that without Him in our lives, we are nothing. It also gives us the opportunity to thank Him once again for His changing power and our gratitude that He chose us. It sends those demonic thoughts into the pigs. We are completely healed, but the enemy tells us we aren’t. Our brains are designed to remember the past every now and then. This is for Gods honor and glory but the enemy tries to use it to his advantage. As Christians we are “more than conquerors” and need to turn it around for God. Love you.
Nancy, I have a question. What about when certain things are a little harder to forgive like lying, deceit and financial infidelity? I know forgiveness is important but some wrong doings are more serious than others and not only is forgiving a little more difficult but also being able to trust that these things won’t happen again can seem impossible. This can definitely make it difficult to have peace.
Hi Sio! Thanks for your truthful comment. You are so right in your question. There are no guarantees that they will not do those acts again. It is hard to trust someone who lies and is deceitful. It is those we love that break our hearts. It’s not the man crossing the street that we do not know. So what are you to do? God’s word says to trust God. We are never more like Christ than when we are forgiving someone who has truly violated you. If we marry someone who lies and deceives before we got married, you can expect no different action after you are married. Everyone is tolerable in small doses. I would suggest that you talk to your pastor and take your spouse to get marriage counseling. In the meantime, pray for conviction.
Thank you Nancy… yes, we have been to counseling and are working on our marriage, slowly but surely.
Hi Sio! So glad to hear that! You do your part whether he does his or not. God will richly bless you for it. I have seen spouses change over and over again when one partner continues to do their part and put their trust in God.