WHY DID I EVER MARRY HIM?
When Problems come into a marriage, the first thing that happens is that we get attacked in our mind. The evil one tells us that we are better off divorced. Then the BIG QUESTION comes. Why did I marry my spouse?
The Answer is clear in Gods word.
Mal. 2:15 “But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring.Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let not deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.”
The word “seek” in Hebrew is baqash. The primitive root word is to search. It implies begging. This is killing me as I am typing it. God is begging us to raise our kids Godly?
God makes man and woman one so they will marry and raise godly children.
Sad to say, with 50% of marriages ending in divorce, the children are thrown into a traumatic situation.
In the book “Helping children survive divorce” by Dr. Archibald D. Hart, it states that children of divorced Christian parents are at greater risk than others.
They feel like why didn’t God make my mom and dad love each other? The child could easily become disillusioned with Christianity.
This is a list of a few losses that children face:
1. Loss of home.
2. Loss of my neighborhood friends.
3. Loss of convenient transportation.
4. Dramatic reduction in our standard of living.
5. Loss of family outings together.
Divorce makes enemies of those who once declared undying love for one another. It does damage to children.
Here are some of the reasons why divorce is emotionally damaging to children:
1. Fear and anxiety
2. Abandonment and rejection
3. Aloneness and sadness
4. Frustration and anger
5. Rejection and resentment, and
6. Reestablishment of trust
Before we think it is all about us and forget if we divorce, our child will be another statistic. So turn to Gods word for counsel.
Eph. 5:33 “Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
In the book called “Love and Respect”, the author calls this the crazy cycle. That is because neither partner will do their part till the other one does. Then they just go around and around on the “crazy cycle”.
It only takes one person to do their part and get off the “crazy cycle”.
You married him to show him love and respect in front of your children and the children of others.
You are to be a living epistle to your children and raise them godly.
OH! Yes!! ENJOY THE JOURNEY!!
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LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
You just described our lives about 5 years ago. My children went through so much because their father and I separated. My son was three at the time and he actually stopped speaking and reverted back to not baby talk but gurgling and slurping noises. My daughter began to put on so much weight and she was only 9. We lost our home, our car, our family, friends, and our church. I was so afraid of loosing them as I tried to rebuild a life for us but God was there the whole way through. I attended support groups that were well intended but pushed divorce and even had attorneys who would represent any of us for free if we chose that route. It was rough but it was also an opportunity to speak life, restoration, forgiveness, and hope to hurting women.
Even though God has restored our marriage, my kids still have some lingering fears and question us both about our commitment to each other. We are continually reassuring them. My daughter is now 15 and my son is 9. She is happy, healthy and thin and my son is a great story teller and loves to tells us about his dreams for the future. We are blessed…
Hi L.Lopez! Thanks so much for this awesome testimony. I know how your children feel. One thing for sure, God will turn all of that for His good and greatly use your children. Praying that God uses your powerful words for his honor and glory! Love you!