IS YOUR SPOUSE AVOIDING YOU?
Is your talking non-stop and annoying at times?
Do you talk so much to your spouse that he doesn’t even LISTEN to you any more?
Do your words just keep pouring out that it now just sounds like noise?
1Cor.13:1 “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity (agape love), I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.”
In the Corinth church, Paul was so unimpressed with their spirituality because they obviously had a great LACK of love.
Do you claim a lot and say a lot , yet your life doesn’t match up to your claims?
Are you irritating to your spouse and family because you lack love?
This kind of love is AGAPE, which is a self-giving love.
Agape love gives without expecting repayment.
This kind of love gives even when it is not ACCEPTED.
You give agape love even when a person is unlovable.
Agape love doesn’t love just to RECEIVE something back for it.
Agape love is self-denial for the sake of another.
This is not about your EMOTIONS and how you feel but what you need to do to make things right for someone else.
Do you express this spontaneous and divine love with your spouse?
Sacrifice is very important to your Christian walk but without love, it is USELESS.
Love is most valuable because without it everything else is useless.
If your spouse doesn’t listen to you and won’t be changed, ask God to show you a way to HANDLE the situation.
Ask God to change you so you can deal with your spouse in a spirit of love.
Ask God to GIVE you His heart for your spouse.
You can deal with anything if you have God’s heart and mind.
Be willing and open to make changes in your WORDS and in your character.
The last thing you want to be is a “tinkling cymbal.”
Whatever God shows you in your actions or words that needs to be changed, accept it and change.
GOD IS LOVE!!!
NOTE: Don’t miss tomorrows post that will have issues to make your marriage a success!
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE 
“…ask God to show you a way to HANDLE the situation.” I have been praying that God help me understand how to listen to him. I do believe He has shown me things through signs but I want to be 100% sure it is Him and not my mind convincing me of the things that I see. One day after prayer in my car, I turned the radio up and a song titled “Hold On” was playing. Shortly into the song, a car cut me off and the license plate read “W84GOD”. I’m trying my best to do what I believe God is trying tell me. But everyday it is hard and also hard to watch my wife be so wrapped up in what appears to be a negative spirit. Trying to “walk by faith, not by sight” because my eyes see all the bad that is going on but my faith in God and what He has blessed my wife and I with keeps me holding on. I pray that He reaches out to her and shows her that our life together is not a mistake…that it is His blessing to us and we should fight tooth and nail to nourish and protect it. All that read this, please say a prayer for US…I need all the prayer I can get because I love this woman so much. Thank you in advance.
Hi Dion! Right this minute tell the devil to get out of your marriage and take his demons with him in Jesus Name. There is power in the NAME OF JESUS. Tell the Holy
Spirit that you are partnering with Him to fulfill your marital commitment. Command that negative spirit to leave her as you are driving home from work. If you walk in and she looks or sounds tormented, go into the bathroom and pray for her quietly. If she lets you, and won’t be offended, lay hands on her to pray. SMILE! Ask her if there is something you can help her with to lighten her load. Read 1Peter 2:18–23 and take those steps. It may seem like it doesn’t apply but it does. These are the steps for someone who is being treated unjustly. Also, memorize 1Corinthians 13:4-7I. Make a covenant with God that you will treat your wife with Agape love no matter how she acts. Your reward will be so great that you will not be able to contain it! God left his word as our pattern.
Mrs. Nancy, I wanted to be sure to tell you thank you. I must say that your words brought me to tears. I did exactly as you said and I will wait for Jesus to show me the good spirit in my home and in my wife. I pray for her constantly. I don’t know if she prays but as her husband I feel I must pray enough for the both of us. This weekend has been filled with many messages: from my mother, Mr. Charles Stanley, Mr. Joel Olsteen, Mrs. Nancy Salazar. I know in my heart that God has not brought my wife and I this far just to simply drop us into misery. I feel it is my responsibility to hold on and let Him do what He is going to do even if my wife can’t see or understand it. May God continue to bless you as you bless others.
Hi Dion! Thanks so much for your blessing. It is such a blessing to hear a husband so dedicated to having a successful marriage. God’s angels (ministering spirits) are surrounded around you and His Holy Spirit is there to guide you. You are not alone! You are His champ!!!!! May God bless your marriage.